Y is a friend at work.
Most of our features are opposite: I am crazy about sweets but she is not interested, I finally can have my voice to be not too loud in public after being conscious for 2 years and she is trying all she can to increase her voice at a group meeting, we like completely different styles when it comes to fashion...
Yet, we get awfully well along with each other. Sometimes I joke that Y is my soulmate. What makes her a "soulmate" of mine?
First she is a fun person. This is probably not obvious to those who do not get close to her because she appears to be very quiet and sedentary. She is intellectual, especially compared to most other females that I know. She knows a lot of subjects and can carry out a information- or opinion- stuffed conversation. She is fond of learning new things including new gadgets and new games. She is actively improving herself although many times the goal is only to entertain herself. For me, it's fun to spend time with such kind of people.
Second we have good communication: one talks, the other listens, no judgement. We do not often have the luxury of chatting for long because most of the time we have together is at work. So our chat only goes lengthy when there is actually such a need. By now, she probably knows more "skeletons in my closet" than anybody else, but I feel her respect to me has not been dented at all. I probably know of her share of problems in life than of others', yet I think she is one of the most beautiful person that I've ever known of. It's her who taught me "he/she is no more, nor less" (than myself). With empathy and mercy, we provide each other a place to share and shed stress.
“Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.” (by Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859)
Third, she thinks, and she is kind and ethical. It's important to have both together to avoid being either a push-over or a world-destroyer.
Fourth, Y is independent with a complete "self". Unlike many people who live for others, she has not lost her own pursuits, not even to her child. Having a family with a kid, she still cares about how she looks, cares about her own happiness that is not based on anybody else. Not to comment what is better, I am only saying I like it. I believe one is not defined by anything external, including her own kids.
What's more, despite the fragile look she possesses, she is in fact strong, smart, and efficient. Many times, I am shamefully the opposite :-P.
A friend, whom I do not spend much time with, yet magically feel close to and trust, who encourages me, corrects me, and sometimes enlightens me, whose company I utterly enjoy.
Most of our features are opposite: I am crazy about sweets but she is not interested, I finally can have my voice to be not too loud in public after being conscious for 2 years and she is trying all she can to increase her voice at a group meeting, we like completely different styles when it comes to fashion...
Yet, we get awfully well along with each other. Sometimes I joke that Y is my soulmate. What makes her a "soulmate" of mine?
First she is a fun person. This is probably not obvious to those who do not get close to her because she appears to be very quiet and sedentary. She is intellectual, especially compared to most other females that I know. She knows a lot of subjects and can carry out a information- or opinion- stuffed conversation. She is fond of learning new things including new gadgets and new games. She is actively improving herself although many times the goal is only to entertain herself. For me, it's fun to spend time with such kind of people.
Second we have good communication: one talks, the other listens, no judgement. We do not often have the luxury of chatting for long because most of the time we have together is at work. So our chat only goes lengthy when there is actually such a need. By now, she probably knows more "skeletons in my closet" than anybody else, but I feel her respect to me has not been dented at all. I probably know of her share of problems in life than of others', yet I think she is one of the most beautiful person that I've ever known of. It's her who taught me "he/she is no more, nor less" (than myself). With empathy and mercy, we provide each other a place to share and shed stress.
“Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.” (by Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859)
Third, she thinks, and she is kind and ethical. It's important to have both together to avoid being either a push-over or a world-destroyer.
Fourth, Y is independent with a complete "self". Unlike many people who live for others, she has not lost her own pursuits, not even to her child. Having a family with a kid, she still cares about how she looks, cares about her own happiness that is not based on anybody else. Not to comment what is better, I am only saying I like it. I believe one is not defined by anything external, including her own kids.
What's more, despite the fragile look she possesses, she is in fact strong, smart, and efficient. Many times, I am shamefully the opposite :-P.
A friend, whom I do not spend much time with, yet magically feel close to and trust, who encourages me, corrects me, and sometimes enlightens me, whose company I utterly enjoy.
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